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3. Behaviour- Strategies To Create Consistency and Certainty
4 Lessons-
Start3.1 Guilt - Just LET IT GO! How It Impacts Behaviour and Builds Resentment
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Start3.2 Electronics and Behaviour, There Is A Connection
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Start3.3 House Rules - Consistency And Certainty For Every Family Member
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Start3.4 The Importance Of Being A Supportive Partner - Your Relationship Depends On It
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Creating Positive Change in Your Family
Blending Families Together
Are you struggling with consistency in your household and feeling like you aren't being heard?
Are you ready for ......
- Closer connection with your partner and confidently parent all children together.
- Strategies that can create positive behavioural change through consistent action.
- Happier family time where everyone feels valued.
- Relaxed children are better able to cope moving between households
So, you’ve blended families, or are about to – it’s not that easy, is it?
You feel in love and like all couples, believed that you could live in a wonderful family environment raising your kids and growing old together.
At the moment, however, things may not be going to plan as there are personalities and outside influences that just don’t seem to be coming together.
Blended families are complicated!
You feel in love and like all couples, believed that you could live in a wonderful family environment raising your kids and growing old together.
At the moment, however, things may not be going to plan as there are personalities and outside influences that just don’t seem to be coming together.
Blended families are complicated!
Children that may not be your own biological children living with you?
Children moving between 2 households, which may or may not be on a regular basis?
Tension between you and your partner due to their ex?
Children are not really sure where they fit in and have to adjust and readjust to different living arrangements and household routines?
Behaviours change because children do not want to be ‘perceived’ as being disloyal to their other birth parent?
You feel like you don't have a say in your own household?
Children acting out and demand special treatment which then puts strain on your relationship?
Non-residential birth parent is not agreeable and creates drama, including court appearances and orders?
In general terms, the household mode can swing very quickly from settled, happy and peaceful to chaotic and negative in a short space of time.
We get it, we really do!
We’ve been through the drama, the court orders, the conflict and anguish, and life is certainly not perfect.
Non-residential birth parent is not agreeable and creates drama, including court appearances and orders?
In general terms, the household mode can swing very quickly from settled, happy and peaceful to chaotic and negative in a short space of time.
We get it, we really do!
We’ve been through the drama, the court orders, the conflict and anguish, and life is certainly not perfect.
What we have learnt is that by looking at our own how we act and react, we can create the family environment that we want and deserve, it just means setting in place structure that will ensure consistency, certainty and positivity.
Creating Positive Change is for you if:
- There are inconsistencies in the approach to parenting children in the family regardless of time spent within the family unit
- You and your partner/spouse are feeling disconnected and undervalued
- Children’s behaviour is disrupting the household and creating tension between parents and with siblings
- You’re finding it difficult to cope with behaviours of non-residing birth parents and their influence on your household
- You’re planning to blend families and want to set up a positive future focused household
With this course you’ll :
Learn how by working together, as partners in parenting all children with consistency and certainty, you can feel more appreciated and create a positive and relaxed family life.
- Have the confidence to work together as partners in parenting all children equally
- Learn how implementing simple health and exercise strategies can be positive for the whole family
- Be closer as parents having spent time together connecting and planning your family’s future
- See consistency and certainty create a relaxed environment with an understanding of expectations and behaviours
- Continually work together to create a positive mindset and lead your family life in the direction it deserves
Highly Recommended Course. Easy to Understand, Informative, Very Well Organized. The Course is Full of Practical Tips and is Valuable for Anyone who wants to Create a Positive Family Environment. We Really Enjoyed it. Thank you!!
With this course you’ll :
Learn how by working together, as partners in parenting all children with consistency and certainty, you can feel more appreciated and create a positive and relaxed family life.
- The power of listening and speaking with positive intent
- You’ll be closer as parents having spent time together connecting and planning your family’s future
- Strategies that can create positive behavioural change through consistent action
- You’ll have the confidence to work together as partners in parenting all children equally
- See consistency and certainty create a relaxed environment with an understanding of expectations and behaviours
- Continually work together to create a positive mindset and lead your family life in the direction it deserves
- How implementing simple health and exercise strategies can be positive for the whole family
Meet Kate & Jason
We're Kate Herford and Jason Burns, and we created this course to assist blended family’s navigate through the often emotionally-charged process of blending family’s which are impacted by both internal and external personalities and situations.
We have 7 children all up with 5 children ranging from 8-14 at home, 3 full-time with the other 2 on a 50/50 week about basis, so we know and understand the complexities involved.
We got together in June 2016 and it’s been an amazing journey where we have blended families after 3 months, combined households, managed kids at 3 different schools, started 2 businesses and even took the 5 kids on a 3 week US trip in a Winnebago none the less!
We also will not sugar coat it, there have been difficult times, both prior to getting together and in our current family situation.
Prior to getting together, Jason was part of a blended for 18 years which involved court orders, with updates that had to be negotiated and there were long distance and interstate travel to enable visitation with the children’s other birth parent. Naturally communication and balancing parental and family expectations has seen challenges requiring careful management.
Kate was able to set up shared arrangements, which at the time were emotionally draining,as with any family change but especially with the arrangements around the holidays. Through personal development, a positive approach and putting the children first, these arrangements however have evolved over time and are now flexible enough to cater for changes in family life.
We understand that this is not everyone’s experience though which is why we have created our course.
The course is designed to help guide all family members, both mum and dad, and it is suitable for children,particularly upper primary and secondary school ages.
The focus is on creating a positive environment for everyone through simple daily actions, taking between 10 – 60 min per day over 14 days.
This is the first step to create positive change in your family.
What's in the Course
Four Modules
This program is designed to be completed taking small daily actions taking between 5 -15 mins. It is suggested that it is not rushed to be completed.
Each Module will have between 3-5 learnings which are in the form of either a video or written information. Each learning is generally no more than 10 min, so for the base curriculum for the 28 days will be around the 2-3 hours. The additional resources are on top of that time.
Take time each day, preferably when both parents are available (if that is possible) and go through it together. If only one parent participates, there is still great value in completing the course. As with any change, it can cause a shift or action in another area.
It is also designed so that children in from ages 8 and upwards would benefit. Access is lifetime, so you are able to go back through the course at any time.
Video Lessons
We’ll walk you through strategies that will help set up consistency and certainty in the household, for both parents and children and lead to positive change.
Resources
There are additional resources such as challenges and videos that complement the Video Lessons and allow you to build knowledge, skills and confidence throughout the course.
These typically are between 5-30 min but trust us they are worth taking the time to watch and complete!
The 30 Day Activity Challenge is a must for the whole family and we look forward to sharing some of the outcomes.
Group Support
Join Facebook Community – “Positively Step Parent Support Network” with other families just like yours.